智慧女人所必备的正面积极的心态


古人常说,你是你所想, 所有事将会依据我们的思考模式一一演变成事实。简单来说,我们就是我们所想,所设的。

如果你认为你是美丽的,你自己就会是美丽的女人。如果你认为你是勤劳的女人,你就会是勤劳的。如果你认为你是富裕的女人,你就是富裕的。如果你认为你是幸福健康的女人,你就是幸福健康的。反之,如果你把思想转向互面的方向思考,你的生活将永远是负面的。

我看过很多女人,一直认为自己样貌不如人,所以想尽办法去改变自己,让自己变得更漂亮,更有吸引力。但是,我们有否发现我们越是刻意装扮自己,我们就会越觉得不满意。

这是为什么?这是因为我们的内心是负面的,所以看的东西,事物是永远是负面的。尽管自己已经是美丽大方的,我们总认为自己身上少了吸引人的部分或风格。

就因这点,曾经有人问我,这位女士问道:“丽宝,你觉得还有什么可以让我更好看的吗?”

我说:“有,只要你改变你的心态,用您自己的眼睛来看自己,那么你就会看到自己其实比任何人都美丽大方。”

我问:“你知道为何你总感到自己不美丽吗?那是因为你带着负面的心态,再加上你带着别人的眼睛来看自己,所以你肯定只能看到别人的好,而看不到自己的好,你明白了吗?”

就这样,我和这位女士分别了。就在不久的之后,她发了一讯息,她说:丽宝,非常感谢你的一句话,我开始明白原来要快乐知足的生活就是那么简单,只要自己看到自己,那么别人也才能看到我们的好!

朋友们,生活其实是从自己开始,如果自己看不到自己的“好”,别人也不会看到。我们必须学会选择正面的心态来看我们所预期的事物。

理由很简单
用摄影做个比喻
如果我们用近的shooting mode,我们看到的画面肯定是大而清晰的,如果我们用的是远的shooting mode,那么拍出来的object肯定是小的。

假设我们要拍近的画面,但使用上了远的shooting mode,我们肯定不满意对吗?因为出来的效果不是我们所预期,理由就是如此简单。
如果我们要有正面的结果,但是我们去装上了负面的心态,出来的结果肯定是负面的。

为了要看到我们预期的结果,我们必须要懂得配上什么样的心态和眼睛。

所以女性们所面对的问题是什么?我们往往忘了这些简单的原理而经常生活在矛盾,不符合逻辑的状态中。

朋友们,其实在生活路上遇到很多问题,产生很多不必要的矛盾,那是因为我们不懂得简单的原理,其实我们的生活就是那么简单,要幸福,要快乐,要美丽,只要我们懂得配上正确的心态和眼睛,我们就会看得到,摸得到!

  • Digg
  • Del.icio.us
  • StumbleUpon
  • Reddit
  • Twitter
  • RSS

Being prepared

Every day presents new opportunities for everyone. In the vast majority of cases, these opportunities are wasted. They fly right on by, never acted upon by those who find them. Those few people who achieved greatness are the ones who are prepared for the opportunities that come their way.

How do we prepare ourselves for opportunity? The first thing that comes to mind of most people is money. Then there's education, training, experience, friends in high places. These things can help. They are, however, not essential.

In his book, Compassionate Capitalism, Amway co-founder Rich DeVoss says:
"...what makes you ready to recognize and to reach out for the golden ring when it suddenly appears is something mysterious, something powerful inside your heart and heard that says, 'I can do it and I will.'"

That attitude comes, not from having education or having money or having a lot of contacts, but from a confident belief in ourselves, a mind that's open to new possibilities, a willingness to do whatever it takes to make something happen.

There are plenty of intelligent, highly-educated people with money and connections who never go anywhere in life. We can have almost "everything" coming to us, and yet without the right attitude, without the willingness and confidence to dive right in, opportunities will pass us by, one after another.


The best opportunities are not the ones that we look for, they're the ones we work for. Many people wasted a lot of time "looking" for the "perfect" opportunity. They want to put themselves in the right place at the right time, and let the opportunity do all the work. This rarely happens.

Opportunity is not a free ride. There is opportunity in every grape seed. With the right
nurturing the seed will become a tree and will bear an endless supply of fruit. But nothing will happen if we just grab the seed and do nothing else with it. We may very well have gotten "into" it at the beginning of its "momentum growth phase". Nevertheless, it will bear no fruit without our hard work and persistence.

Being prepared for opportunity means being willing and able to do whatever it takes to make something of the opportunity.

  • Digg
  • Del.icio.us
  • StumbleUpon
  • Reddit
  • Twitter
  • RSS

Give Today a GOAL

Give today a goal, or two or three or a dozen. Then set about, one by one, to make them happen.


We can accomplish just about anything we ask of ourself. Yet in order to accomplish, we do need to ask.

Make our goals specific and clear. When we know exactly what we intend to do, we're well on our way to getting it done.

Make our goals meaningful and memorable. The more they mean to ourselves, the less likely we are to become sidetracked by all the distractions that will come our way.

We now have this day with which to work. Give ourselve something meaningful to make of it.
Give today a goal, with our energy focused on accomplishment. And today, in return, will give us great value that lasts for a long, long time.

  • Digg
  • Del.icio.us
  • StumbleUpon
  • Reddit
  • Twitter
  • RSS

Changing forward

Sometimes, even when we give our best to the effort, the results are not what we intended. Other times, factors largely out of our control change the landscape in disappointing ways.

Every day the world changes. Some of those changes bring pleasant surprises, others bring unanticipated difficulties.

Luckyly, just as surely as the world changes from day to day, year to year, we have the ability to adapt. Change will always happen, and we will always have the option of making the best of it.

It can be frustrating when something beyond our control swoops down and ruins our plans. Yet we can turn the energy of that frustration in a positive direction.

We might be inclined to try to get even, to pay back an equal amount of damage and disappointment to whomever or whatever has disappointed us. But that will not bring us anything of value.

Instead of getting even, resolve to get even further ahead when the changes come, whatever they may be. See each change as the opportunity it is, and we'll find a way for them all to pull us forward.

  • Digg
  • Del.icio.us
  • StumbleUpon
  • Reddit
  • Twitter
  • RSS

Let our light shine in the darkness








Light does not conquer darkness by pushing the darkness out of the way. Rather, the light comes into the darkness and transforms it with brilliant, positive energy.

In the same way, the obstacles in life are not conquered by fighting them on their own terms or attempting to push them out of the way. The best way to move past a difficult situation is to transform it with positive, productive energy.

No matter how much we push against the darkness it will not go anywhere. Yet the moment we shine our light, the darkness is no more. When we fight against our problems, all it usually accomplishes is to make them stronger and give them more validity. Instead, seek to transform those problems, those difficult situations, by virtue of our own positive values and efforts.

Rather than struggling against the situation, give the best we have to it. Rather than fighting darkness with more darkness, transform that darkness by letting our light shine.

  • Digg
  • Del.icio.us
  • StumbleUpon
  • Reddit
  • Twitter
  • RSS

快乐

文学家,思想家,哲学家包括企业家们都有一个共识:当人类从野蛮走到了文明的门槛时,就开始有了"相思", 有了回归大自然的永恒之“乡愁”冲动。在这份永恒的冲动中,寻找快乐渐渐成为人们的论点。快乐是什么?快乐是血、汗、泪浸泡的人生土壤中绽放的生命之花,这正如惠特曼所说的:“只有受过寒冻的人才感觉得到阳光的温暖,也唯有在人生战场上受过挫折、痛苦的人才知道生命的可贵,也只有曾经与病魔战斗过的人方能体验生命健康的真贵,才能够感受到生活之中的真正快乐。

托尔斯太在他的散文名篇《我的忏悔》中提到一个故事:一个男人被一只老虎追赶而掉下县悬崖,幸运的是在跌落的过程中他抓住了一棵生长在悬崖边的小树。此时他发现,头顶上那只老虎正在虎视眈眈,低头一看,悬崖下还有一只老虎正等着他。更遭的是,还有两只老鼠正忙着啃咬悬着他生命的小树根须,绝望中,他突然发现附近生长着一堆草莓,伸手可及。于是,这人摘下草莓,放到嘴里,自言道:好甜啊!在生命的进程中,当痛苦、绝望、不幸和危难向他逼近的时候,我们是否还能顾及享受一下草莓的滋味呢?苦海无边是小农经济的哲学,“尘世永远是苦海,天堂才有永恒的快乐,是禁欲主义者用来安慰自己的慌言,苦中求乐想必才是快乐的真谛。

二战时期?一名叫伊利莎白。康黎的女士,在庆祝盟军在北非获胜的那一天收到了国际部的电报,他的侄儿,她最爱的一个人死在战场上了。她无法接受这个事实,她决定放弃工作,远离家乡,把自己永远藏在孤独和眼泪中。正当她清理东西准备辞职的时候,忽然发现了一封信,那是她侄儿在她母亲去世时写给她的。信上写道:我知道你会撑过去。我永远记得你曾教导我的:不论在哪里,我们都必须有勇气面对生活,我永远记着你的微笑,像个男子汉般勇敢,能够承受一切的挑战。她把这封信读了一遍又一遍,似乎他母亲就在她身边望着她:你为什么不照着你教导我的去做。康黎从此打消了辞职的念头,一再对自己说:我应该把悲痛藏在微笑下面,继续生活,因为事情已经是这样了,我没有能力改变它,但是我有能力继续生活下去。

人生是一张单程车票,一去无返。在荷兰首都阿姆斯特丹一座十五世纪的教堂废墟上留着一行字:事情如果是这样的,就不会那样。藏在痛苦泥潭里而无法自拔,只会与快乐无缘。告别痛苦的手得由我们自己来挥动,享受今天盛开的花朵的捷径只有一个选择:坚决与过去分手。

艾柯卡靠自己的奋斗终于当上了福特公司的总经理,1978年7月13日,有点得意忘形的艾柯卡被妒火中烧的大老板亨利福特开除了。在福特工作32年,当了8年的总经理,一帆风顺的艾柯卡突然间失业了,他痛不欲生,开始喝酒消愁,对自己失去了信心,认为自己彻底崩溃了。就在这时候,艾柯卡接受了一个新挑战,应聘到濒临破产的克莱斯乐气车公司出任总经理。凭着他的智慧、胆识和魅力,艾柯卡勇敢的大刀阔斧对克莱斯勒进行了整顿和改革,并向政府求援、说服国会议员,取得了巨额贷款,重振企业的势气。在艾柯卡的领导下,克莱斯乐公司在黑暗的日子里推出了K型车的计划,此计划的成功令克莱斯乐起死回生,成为仅次于通用汽车公司,福特气车公司的第三大公司。1983年7月13日,艾柯卡把生平仅有的8.13亿美元的支票交到银行的代表手中。至此,克来斯乐公司还清了所有债务,而恰好当天是五年前艾柯卡被开除的这一天。事后,艾柯卡深有感触地说:“奋力向前,哪怕时运不济,哪怕天崩地裂。

痛苦像一把犁,它一面犁破了我们的心,另一面却掘开了生命的新起源。“古人讲,“不知生,焉知死?“不知痛苦,怎能体会到快乐?痛苦就像一颗未熟的青橄榄,品尝后才能知其甘甜,但是这品尝需要勇气!

  • Digg
  • Del.icio.us
  • StumbleUpon
  • Reddit
  • Twitter
  • RSS

The 1st Minutes

Are we too busy to get something done? Then go ahead and do it as soon as we can.

Waiting until the last minute never makes the task any easier, and it always makes the work more stressful. Going ahead and doing it at the first minute, as soon as we know it must be done, can save us an enormous amount of time and energy.

This is because when we go ahead and do what must be done, we don't have to waste a lot of time worrying about it and wondering how we will ever find the time. Putting something off in order to save time really ends up costing much more time.

So the next time we're tempted to wait until the last minute because of time pressures, think of what we would be doing. We would, in fact, be making things worse.

Instead of putting something off until the last minute, put it on our schedule the very first minute possible. Then go ahead and get it done.

The time we saved will enable us to get much more done. The peace of mind we gained will be priceless.

  • Digg
  • Del.icio.us
  • StumbleUpon
  • Reddit
  • Twitter
  • RSS