The Value of Life

生活中，多多少少我们都会失去一些事物，未来的日子，我们也无法预料自己还将面对多少的失去。人的一生可能会失去事业、金钱、爱情、地位、权势、健康、亲人、心爱之物等。当然，失去的感觉不让人拥有时那般满足和幸福。

失去的滋味没有人愿意去尝试，它是酸涩，痛楚，无奈，有时更是疚心的。有时失去的也许是我们的唯一我们的命根，视它如自己生命般宝贵。然而，命运有时会在杀那间从我们的生命中残忍地夺走。刚开始的时候我们可能无法接受残酷的事实，可能都曾想过用死来解脱，在唯一命根与生命的天平上，理智地想，我们应该倾向于考虑自己的生命为要，因为很多事物毕竟是身外之物，生命才是我们最宝贵的，有了它，我们才可以去重新创造或者拥有一切。

失去，虽然是一种残痛，但是有时也未必不是一种幸福！从某种唯心的角度来看，如果失去了某些事物，那它就应该是与我们无缘吧！那么，既然是生命中注定不属于我们的东西我们又何必太过多强求呢？能否承受住失去带来的痛苦，对我们不仅是一种考验，也是一场历练。面对失去，乐观起来吧，既然已经失去了，就不要再难过，难过也没有用，我们要学会面对现实，接受失去。

俗话说：“旧的不去，新的不来。与其为失去的痛苦，不如为争取新的希望而努力。这并非是一种阿Q精神胜利法的无知和狭隘，而是对生活本身一种更精妙的领悟，一种更彻透的达是一种更高境界的认知。

How often do we stop to count our blessings? In our daily struggle for more, how often do we feel joyful and thankful for the many, many things we already have?

In our ambitious quest to better our life, be careful that we don't overlook the wealth that we already have. Wealth? Yes, wealth that is very real and very accessible to us.

Do we know that we already have abundant of wealth? Perhaps we don't feel like it if we've just paid the bills. Yet each and every one of us has an abundance that is almost beyond comprehension. The secret is to tap into that abundance and use it to do whatever we want to do.

And the process starts with counting our blessings. Taking stock of the things we have, the things we know, the people in our life, our spirituality, our skills, our opinions, our special perspective on life, our family, our hobbies, our sense of humor, our appreciation for beauty, our caring for others, our concern for those less fortunate, our ability to see opportunity. The list of possibilities is endless, and these things all have value beyond anything we can imagine.

Take a good hard look at ourselves and to count our blessings. Think of as many of them as you can. Think of the beauty and richness of our life. These things don't require money or power or position. They all spring from our attitude, the way we react to situations, the way we value others, the way we value life itself.

Right now, within ourselves, we have the ability to do anything we want with our life. We have complete control of our behavior, our actions from minute to minute. Look deep inside ourselves and tap into the wealth that lies hidden within uus. It is there if only we will look, and the best way to find it is with an attitude of thanksgiving and joy.

一把坚实的大锁挂在大门上，一根铁杆费了九牛二虎之力，还是无法将它撬开。

钥匙来了，他瘦小的身子钻进锁孔，只轻轻一转，大锁就“啪”地一声打开了。　　

铁杆奇怪地问：“为什麽我费了那麽大力气也打不开，而你却轻而易举地就把它打开了呢？”　　

钥匙说：“因为我最了解他的心。”　　

(注：每个人的心，都像上了锁的大门，任你再粗的铁棒也撬不开。唯有关怀，才能把自己变成一只细腻的钥匙，进入别人的心中，了解别人。)

Remember always that people want to feel needed. They want to help out and be a part of what we are doing. When we satisfy this desire in people, we receive their admiration, loyalty, respect and cooperation.

Other people can be a powerful source of ideas, of motivation, of business contacts -- if we encourage their participation. Most people are only too willing to help. Most people are genuinely flattered when we ask for their opinion or their expertise.

On the other hand, we must not take advantage of people. Asking someone for their help out of laziness on our part will not win any points. People are willing to help us only if they see us putting forth our own best effort. No one will want to help us if we don't help ourselves. However, if we're striving toward excellence every day, people will jump all over themselves to be a part of what we are doing.

And always show sincere appreciation. People will want to help us only if they feel we are truly grateful.

There's an old story in the sales business about a salesman who doubled his orders for cash registers by asking for advice rather than orders. He would call on each prospect, introduce himself, and say, "Mr. Jones, I didn't come here to sell you a machine. I came to get some advice. I'm new at this and I wonder if you would show me how to sell it." The prospect would almost always be quite complimented, and work up a great sales presentation. Then the salesman would say, "We make it sound like we need one." He made many sales just from letting the other person take part.

This concept only works if we're willing to "give" as much as we "take." If we're always willing to help and advise others, then there will be plenty of people whom we, in turn, can call on for advice and assistance.

It's very, very difficult to accomplish anything alone. And it is quite unnecessary as well. There are plenty of people willing to help us if we will only ask.